Woman spots college friend's husband on dating app — posing as single

A woman found herself in an uncomfortable dilemma after stumbling across her college friend's husband on a dating app, where he was presenting himself as single and even sent her a message saying she was his type.

The story, shared by a 35-year-old woman identified only as A, was featured Monday on the YouTube channel of attorney Yang Na-rae.

A said she recently joined a dating app at the urging of friends and, while browsing male profiles, recognized a familiar face. She ultimately realized the man was the husband of a college acquaintance whose wedding she had attended last year.

"We're not close friends, but we keep in touch from time to time," A said. "I checked my friend's Instagram and confirmed it was the same man I had seen on the app."

She added that the man's profile listed him as single, so she initially assumed the couple had divorced. "I thought he was hiding that he was a divorcé to meet women, and I was going to let it go — but the next day my friend posted a photo on Instagram with her husband."

A few days later, the man sent A a direct message saying she was his type and that he had reached out because of that.

A did not reply, but took screenshots of both his profile and the message. She said she was torn over whether to tell her friend.

"If I had not known he was her husband, I could have actually met up with him," A said. "I do not know whether I should tell my friend as soon as possible for her sake, or whether a third party simply should not get involved in someone else's marriage."

Attorney Yang said she personally would not say anything. "With that level of closeness, it could get awkward," she said, adding that some of her clients who learned of a spouse's infidelity through a third party had later said they wished they had never found out.

Yang added that even if she were in the friend's position, she would not want to be told. "Finding out through someone else would feel even more humiliating," she said.

She said it would be better for the friend to discover the truth on her own. "Anyway, if someone keeps it up long enough, they will get caught," Yang said. "I think he will be found out soon enough."